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Why do men often lose Russian women interest?
Women are usually VERY concerned about their
Internet dating site photos. They spend a great deal of money, and time, with a professional photographer and his/her staff to get the "right look," the right angle, the right hairstyle, for the shot: the photograph. Just look at their "pictures." LOOK again!!!
Men rarely go this extra mile, rarely HAVE a professional shoot, rarely tend to clothing, looks etc.
What thing first calls your attention when you look through the thousands of girls at the dating site girls' list? It is a photo, of course. If the photo fails to attract you, I guess, you will never look at the questionnaire and the girls do all the same. A Russian proverb says "a good dress is a card of invitation". Photo is a "dress" of your profile, the first thing that one pays attention to. If you work upon this question a little bit, your effort will be rewarded. A good photo essentially increases your chances to find the girl you are looking for. Here are several simple rules to achieve success.
For instance, imagine that your photo, the one with you in sweats or the one on your driver's license is the first photo a woman sees. IF this fine woman saw YOU in sweats, when you called on her for a first date...??? What do YOU think would happen? What would YOU think of her if she was wearing sweats on a date to 21 or the like? And THEY often lose Russian women's interest.
Your photo should speak for you
Dating site photo is not the same as one in your passport. You would never use it as an evidence of your identity. The main purpose of it is to show your personality, your attitude to life and the world around you. Looking at the picture of yours women also feel your attitude to them. An emotional dynamic photo wakes curiosity in women and makes them interested in knowing more about you. Try to avoid shooting angles that lack movement and emotion. The worst thing you can do is to upload a driving license photo on your profile.
Your photo should be of high quality
Imagine a person who comes unclean and rumpled for a business appointment. I suppose, you would at least doubt that he is really interested in the issue, to say nothing of doubting his professional skills and incomes. Watching a dark or blurred photo, girls think the same of you, and all the more so since the first thing they see is only a small preview of it. They consider that such a man does not want to have serious relationships with a woman and decide it is better not to waste time on him.
There should be at least a couple of photos
Photos in your profile are meant to describe you and your life story in short. If there are several of them they will manage to do it better than a single picture. Of course, there is no use to upload a whole album of them including your photos as a child and your year books. Four or five pictures will be just enough. By the way, when a woman finds several photos in your profile she concludes that you regarded the issue of filling in the questionnaire seriously and supposes that you are really interested in making a good impression on the one who is supposed to be your wife.
How to measure compatibility
Having been working for many years in various marriage agencies, I have observed a typical situation. A man became acquainted with a woman through a dating site and traversed thousand kilometres to meet with her. However, from the first minutes of personal contact neither could hide their disappointment, and even irritation, understanding that nothing good would grow from their further contact, and that their relationship was doomed to failure.
Why does it happen? They liked each other in the photos; have been satisfied with the answers to questionnaires; have corresponded for some months. Is it not to be expected for a couple to feel at least some mutual sympathy when meeting for the first time? Everything was so perfect when they spoke on the phone and exchange messages. Unfortunately, it's not enough.
Have you ever noticed that different people communicate at different distances? During a conversation one person always moves too close to you while another person constantly "escapes" from you, and you "lose" him. If distances in a dialogue between two people differ too much, they fail to make contact. Maintaining the distance is neither a manner, nor a habit. It's connected to the person's vital energy and sexual needs. Incompatibility in personal distances has its effect on personal meeting, and especially on marriage, but you will not be warned about it from photos and letters.
Another important characteristic which also cannot be traced on photos and questionnaires is tempo-rhythm. I'm sure you have run into people who irritated you with their fussiness or, on the contrary seemed too slow and numb. Actually they are neither good nor bad. Each person lives in individual, natural and comfortable for him or her rhythm which can be detected in both the conversation, in movements, and in sex. If the tempo-rhythms of two people noticeably differ, they won't feel anything except mutual irritation for each other.
One could be shown many examples on discrepancy between various innate personal characteristics. However, not only the incompatibility of physiology has the capacity to pull apart a man away from a woman. The reason for disappointments is often financial interest in communication (scam) and materialism of some ladies. Unfortunately, there are a lot of them, and they use any opportunity to get at the man's wallet, including acquaintances through dating sites. If the woman is clever enough, she doesn't begin to ask for money immediately, but at a face to face meeting you will immediately feel her materialistic nature.
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